What's Love Got To Do With It?

What is love? Google it, look it up in your phone's dictionary, pull out your Webster's...

But can any truly define what love is?

Love can be a lot of things. Love can be merely an infatuation, a passion, and also unconditional. 

I do not claim to be an expert in the realm of love, and can only share my experiences from this point. Any names I use will be changed to protect the innocent... or not so innocent...

Here we go... 

The first time I ever felt as if I was "in love" with someone was my junior year in high school. It was my first girl friend, had a crush on her all through school. Let's just say that I hadn't had any experiences... with anyone... ever...But what I had felt towards her was different than I felt towards the other girls around. 

Was it love? Probably not.

The heartbreak didn't really last long, as with the acne clearing up, and the extra hours in the gym paying off, I really started to get a lot of attention... 

Other than that first crush, there wasn't really a girl in school that ever "did it" for me. Sure there there were girls on the dance team that did a lot to distract boys from paying attention in Spanish class. But I didn't end up losing mine(virginity) until after high school.

After a few awkward years of playing the field after high school I found a girl(or the girl found me?)... I truly felt "in love" with someone... and after a period I told her I loved her, she reciprocated the sentiment. 

Now, when I told her that I loved her, I meant it... And when she told me, I figured she did too. Because... if you love someone you don't cheat on them... right?

That whole  experience taught me that word should not be used lightly. And just because someone says it, it does not necessarily mean the same to both...

I once was in a relationship for 5 years without being able to say it... Not proud of it, but just goes to show how important it is to not misuse the words, or the intentions that come with saying them...

I don't mean that Love hasn't found me since that first real heartbreak.

She has. Lots of times. And it's usually on her terms, not mine...

But...guess what? 

I've said it just to say it. Just to make the other person feel good. To her face. Batting my eyes the whole time...and just not mean it.

we all say it...

Say it 100 times a day to someone, and tell me how much you mean it by the time you hit 99? Probably not as much and wholeheartedly as you did that first time.

You can say that you'd still feel it after 100 times, but after all, they are just words, and love (in my opinion) is way more than just words... 

Way more than words.

This is also not to say that those ladies in my past that I never told "I love you" to did not deserve it. For me, the longer I go without saying it, the more I mean it... 

Love is comfortable silence. Love is a gamble. Love is 143. Love is having a partner in crime. Love is music. Love is a touch. Love is a look into someone's eyes. Love is family.

Love is hearing someone reference their partner, and hearing the joy and admiration in their voice when they talk about them...

Love is the most powerful feeling there is. With love in your pocket all things are possible. 

"I'm not a smart man, but I know what love is..."-Forest Gump

You have to be careful with love. That fickle little cherub, Cupid, must be high on mushrooms the times he's taken shots at me...

I mentioned earlier that love is a gamble. A risk, for sure. It doesn't always pay off... I'm single right now as I write this. Mathematically speaking the odds of love finding me are very high. And it scares the shit out of me. Just sayin'.

Love and the Law of Attraction are the secret to manifesting all the things in your life that you want...

The Law of Attraction is basically, how a magnet works... It draws things to it... With the force of love...

We will carry out the how's and why's next time.  Hopefully you'll see that it all ties together in the end.

Until next time...

Look to the Stars...

Continuing along with this unconventional topic I've chosen to just keep writing and writing about...

This time I look to the stars. I mentioned something along these lines earlier in this series of writings. 

Generally speaking, it has to do with compatibility. And since the topic is sex, this is what I am referring to when I say compatibility. Sexually compatible. 

More times than not I've had transcending  experiences with women who are astrologically a match for me. So... sue me if I put just a little stock into the idea...

Scorpio, Virgo, and Pisces, are my top 3 respectively, although a case could be made for Cancer before Pisces... 

I'll start with Scorpio's. They'd be my "sexual soul mate." I've "dated" two Scorpio's to my knowledge. It's hard to put into words what the experience was, but I do remember quite vividly my young partner saying,"Why don't we ever have regular sex...?"

I laughed, I was thinking the exact same thing. 

I think what happens is that you establish a "psychic link" of sorts when intertwining the energies given off during sex...

If you were "more compatible" with one over another, who's to say otherwise; that whole a different kind of sex can be had? 

Transcendent? Possibly.  I'll get back to this in the next couple weeks, but not now. Moving on.

Virgo. The Virgin, and always far from it. The Virgo oft looks innocent, but once you get to know the Virgo, they are quite...devious, and considering the topic at hand, I should say so.  Very fun to flirt with; Virgo's are. 

Virgo's are also a very close "sexual soul mate" to my sign. Probably the most "animalistic" sexual experiences I've had, I've had with the Virgin. Raw and uninhibited. 

Now to the Pisces. In my experience  the two little fishes have been the most nurturing out of the three. 

I wasn't always sexually experienced, and what I know hasn't been all self taught. Being shown and guided when you aren't all that savvy in the sack can be of great benefit to learning how and what women like, need, and want (and visa versa).

But if I was going to pick one, since they all have amazing things about them, I'd have to go with a Cancer...In a perfect world...

A little more complex, but truly a lovers lover. 

But... Like I said, in a perfect world...

Two Cancers generally don't work out long term, and that's due to their complexities. If one of the Cancers aren't in tune with the other emotionally/spiritually then it usually ends up imploding. 

But as far as pure lovers go... It doesn't get much more pure than a Cancer... and I'm not just saying that because I'm a Cancer... It's just true: we're just great lovers. :)

Where do we go from here???

Well, next posting is going to continue along these same lines, although a little more toned down. 

I mean if I'm going to talk about sex, I might as well talk about that four letter word that is either said too easily, and far too often, or hardly ever, to sometimes not at all. 

Sounds like it's going to be a lot to write about, so I'm going to leave it for the next one... 

Until next time...

G... What next?

I feel the need to say a couple things before I carry this blog out much further with this topic...

Sex for me is like an addiction, I've woken up after some crazy nights and have felt as if I'm not the same person that was doing those things only just a few hours prior... and i was sober. 

Either way...Where did I leave off???

I think I was gonna touch on the G-spot this time around...;)

This little spot that can be oh so elusive.  Mainly because there are a majority of women/men that don't know where it is or they don't like it messed with due to fear that they think they are going to pee when it's stimulated... 

Not the case...

At least I've never had a woman tell me she just pissed on me...*shrug*

G-spot stimulation is best stimulated during oral sex... Probably for both men and women, although I've never had a women stick her finger in my ass while blowing me... so...I don't know...

Ladies, I don't even know how to begin to feel your frustration if your man is going down on you and can't do a simple little thing... like make you cum in his mouth... 

Pull out the charts and diagrams...:)

So there's the G-spot... 

About 2 inches in and 1 up...give or take...;)

What Women Want...

After asking around; gathering input on my last blog entry, I've decided to follow up with a little more descriptive medium to express the love for the topic at hand...

In case you are wondering because you failed to listen: the topic is sex. 

The voice blog was more of a platform to express myself in a different format. It was fun to do, but did not give me the opportunity to fully explore all the "ins and outs" of the topic at hand. Writing allows me to more fully structure how I come across. 

Using voice alone to bring this topic along does it and what I know about it a serious injustice, and I apologize. 

Let's see if I can pick up where I left off and fill any gaps that I may have forgotten the first go 'round...

Let's start, shall we?:)

What do you want? Sex regularly? Just a fuck? You wanna "make love"? A one night stand? A friend with benefits? 

Each can be described in its own fashion, with its own benefits, and it's own drawbacks.

My personal favorite is the friends with benefits. I'll tell you why. A friend with benefits is kind of a middle ground for everyone involved. But it can also be dangerous ground as you can ruin friendships this way, but not always. Tread lightly. 

A friend with benny's can be comfortable, and enthralling at the same time. They can help you more fully enjoy the sexual experience. Since you are usually more comfortable with the FWB than you are with someone who you are just getting to know, allowing for a less inhibited  bedroom, or living room, or bathroom, or kitchen, or dressing room, or state park experience. 

Friends with benefits can also lead to a full blown relationship if everyone involved lets it go that far. In my experiences these have been the most rewarding sexual relationships I've had. 

Typically, something like a one night stand will not take place in the more exotic locations like state parks...;)

And are far less rewarding in the long run. Also, can be damaging to your psyche and mental state if you are a habitual "one night stander"... The energy shared between two people during sex is real and powerful beyond what you may or may not believe. Having one night stands takes that energy and distorts it...(this could be a whole new blog post) Again, not to be taken lightly.

I have also been used for just sex. Not necessarily a one night stand. Usually a friend, could just be an acquaintance. A girl I might know who just needs to get laid. Men and women both get "backed up"... Sometimes you even wonder if you still remember how! :) Sometimes a girl just needs a helping hand... Or a helping something...

And if you happen to be lucky enough to help a young lady out, you make sure you kill it! There's a reason she chose you for this task. You don't want to disappoint. 

I'll get into how's and why's in a minute.

Who just wants to have regular sex? As written this can be taken two ways... Who wants to have sex on a regular basis, or who wants to have just "regular" sex? 

Nobody wants to have "regular" sex... Well... I'm sure somebody does, but not this guy... And having sex regularly can also have its drawbacks... I'll explain. A good round or two of good sex can last a couple days... Too much good sex in a short period of time can dry that shit up :) 

Regular sex. Her on top. Me on top. I cum. She fakes it good enough to make me feel good about myself...Regular sex. Meh.

Good sex doesn't have a top or a bottom... It has another dimension...:)

What about making love Jason?!?

I touched on this in the voice blog with Tantra and Kama Sutra. 

When I think of "making love" I think of slow, steady, passionate sex.  Sex that when two people make that mental connection and intertwine their energies you get taken off to another place entirely. If looking for a connection like this, I suggest looking to the stars.

I'll explain. 

What's your sign? I'm a Cancer. My sexual soul mates are Scorpio's, Virgo's, and Pisces'. That's not saying that I can't have great sex and a lasting, meaningful relationships with any other astrological sign, those are just the ones the stars tell me I'm more compatible with. 

Sure as shit, I have better more fulfilling sexual experiences with women with whom the stars say I will. No lie.

So... When I get to a place where I'm comfortable enough to let someone close enough to me to where I want to fuck her brains out,  it's going to be a friend with benefits scenario.

It could just be chillin' out watching a movie... Like you might do with any number of friends. 

You get comfy. You'll scoot closer to one another. Usually both are thinking the same thing, but never quite owning up to what either wants to do...

Big spoon, little spoon is usually how it starts... This is one of my favorite parts of the build up... The spooning. The adjusting of "equipment." If she's the right one, she'll feel like a missing piece to your puzzle at this point...

Ladies, usually your hair gets all, tickling my nose and face... I make it a point to have you tuck your hair out of the way, making sure I can still breath, and by that I mean, making sure you'll be able to feel my warm breath on the nape of your neck.

After a few minutes of this you ladies wiggle around just the slightest. This is why this is my favorite... Now we play the little game I like to call, "who can keep there hands off the other the longest." Not gonna lie, I usually win!;)

Now, "hands off" is relative. Mind you, spooning, and getting cozy with someone you are comfortable with you never are truly "hands off". Light petting is usually taking place. A soft brush across the arm... Playing with the hair.

Here is where the heat, the volume, and everything else can get turned up in a real hurry.

Women have very sensitive erogenous zones that are very conducive to stimulation when in this particular situation/position. 

Breathing on the nape of the neck. Women are usually receptive to this, as when laying in a spooning position the two bodies usually will sync the rhythms of each other.  

My warm breath softly caressing her nape... The soft, relaxing brushing of her skin...the arm, or outer thigh...lower back...;) Does not necessarily need to be skin contact...

Then there's the spot that I usually save for last, the one that gets her to reach down my pants and grab my cock. Because let's face it, by this time I'm usually a little aroused. 

The spot? It's not the "G-spot", although I do know where that is as well, and might get to that later, or save it for its own follow up post to this one...but you will be a "G" if you can properly use this next erogenous zone to your advantage. I'm also pretty sure that the same zone exists on men as well as I dated a chick who liked to suck on it...

It's located on the iliac crest...Top of the hip bone, front side...:) 

After the warm breath has been tickling the tiny little hairs on the back of her neck, sending little waves of goose bumps and shivers down her spine, soft brushes across her arm, me becoming aroused, and the attack on her iliac crest... Well from there it's no wonder she needs my cock in her hand...:)

At this point I have won the "hands off" game. And it's usually time to claim my prize!:) Having her hands around my cock is NOT the prize...It's more of an unsaid "thank you" from her. 

A thank you for what, you say? If done right, at this point, she should be pretty well warmed up, and even a novice should be able to get her to cum at least once.

Time for my prize! I touched on this during my voice blog as well... At this point, we both know that it's on! Clothes start to get pealed off. I get the wild look in my eyes like "I'm gonna pull your hair, and I just might bite you" mentality.

I'll pull her clothes off, throwing them as far as I can... Not gonna need 'em for a bit...:) 

And when she's laying there, breathing heavy, with her body language screaming  "FUCK ME NOW!"... I don't...;) 

I'll instead, continue to torture her...:) With her legs wrapped around me I'll make my way back to the nape of her neck...Give her earlobe a little attention...

By this time it's really not fair that I'm not inside her yet, but...where's the fun in that?;)

I'll take my time, so she understands my next move... Slowly kissing my way down to the erogenous zone that set the whole thing in motion. The iliac crest. 

If just running a couple fingers across this area will get a woman wet, imagine if you slowly start working your mouth down towards, and eventually in and around this ultra sensual area does to her body...

She wants to cum, and cum NOW!...

Nope. Not yet. Soon though...;)

Now I take her knees and see if I can't get them to touch her shoulders as I taste the madness I've created.

I'll do this until I can't take it anymore... Getting her to come 1...2...3 times doing this... Mostly up to the woman and if she can(some women have a hard time reaching orgasm... I consider it my duty to make it easier;)).

And when I'm ready to fuck her brains out from here, I'll start slow... Really slow... Kinda have to... Don't want to hurt anyone...

Kissing the neck, sucking the earlobe...easing into her...Usually another orgasm isn't that far off for her...

I'll run my fingers through her hair... Slowly... Focusing more on how close she might be to orgasm...then that's when I do it...

My hand intertwined in her hair, I'll grab firmly, and deliberately...pulling back on her hair... almost hard.

No more slow, easing pace...

She's might be yelling, "Oooooooh FUCK!" or something along those lines by now...

More times than not, I've had women tell me, "I want you to fuck me from behind..." before I end up cumming...

Who doesn't love a good doggy style?:)

She's usually got to get "set up"... Face down, ass up.

There she is... Waiting, wanting it...

Guess what? Nope, not yet...

This is one of my other favorites...When she's ready, I don't put my cock where she wants it... I put my tongue where I want it... 

If she hasn't been able to cum yet, this little move is sure to do the trick... 

Going down on her from behind and then fucking her silly when you're ready...

Every girl needs a friend with those kinds of benefits...;)

Or a good vibrator and a vivid imagination!;)