If you've followed along the last few months you know I've had my fair share of bumps and bruises as far as "relationships" go. Again, I have been able to make my way out of it to the other side a stronger, wiser, a little more set in my boundaries. Today I'm allowed to see outside the box.
For those of you unfamiliar with what I went through I will recap.
I was sort of seeing/dating this girl. This girl was fresh out of a relationship, hooked up with me. Toyed with me, and proceeded to move on the next guy or two before going back to the guy she was with before me. A wise woman once told me that a monkey never let's go of one branch until it has ahold of the next one... Ok... it happens, right? Even to the best of us.
So this brings me to the reason for reflection... I was recently asked for some advice on how to handle a situation. A girl asks me what she should do about the guy she's sleeping with because she's now attracted to some other guy and wants to date him, and date him on a more serious level...*sigh*, people and their sugar coating! ;)
At this point I'm basically thrust into the situation I was just in, but on the outside looking in. Like karma asking me,"How would you have liked this scenario to have been played out if you had a choice, Jason?" It look me a minute(actually less) to give this girl the best advice you can ever give someone...
"Just be honest..."
I think I told her to be brutally honest, but either way, the point got across.
On the way back from a cinematic adventure(a movie) with some friends we discussed what it's like to be lied to... to be led on... to be made to feel...like you aren't good enough. We have all been treated this way, and unfortunately, from time to time, we may have been the ones breaking the hearts.
So as I reflect on the scenario and the advice gave I couldn't help wonder... "Just waiting on something(one) better to come along..." "A monkey never lets go..." Hmmm. "Am I like that?" "Am I a monkey"... I'm sure at some point through my dating career I have not always played by the rules and lived up to expectations of others.
I can sit here and be hypocritical or I can spill it all on everyone I've come across(twss)... Every game I've played... and how and why I played it. There's a game in every player, and a player in every game, but the thing about games is that someone has to lose...
Don't be a monkey...
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